I personally think that being rational is like wearing an emotion armor. And the belief that this word will simplify understanding of things and making living easier, is not helpful. I believe that those who think they are protecting themselves by rationalizing emotion and behavior, actually they are running for something, and they are defending from …
This subject of matter is important for most of us, and I decided to take closer view. Current research in this area addresses various questions about reasoning, rationality, intelligence, relationships between emotion and reasoning, and development.
In 1908, Ernest Jones contributed the term “rationalization” to psychoanalysis – “the inventing of a reason for an attitude or action the motive of which is not recognized.”
For Eric Berne, one’s ‘important decisions are already made in early childhood’: thereafter ‘other decisions…are “directed” decisions rationalized on spurious grounds. Once a decision has been made on unconscious grounds, ‘without the individuals being aware of the real forces behind it. He takes upon himself the task of finding justifications for it…”rationalization”‘.
Lacan in his concept of miss recognizing came very close to the same idea: everything that the ego neglects, ignores, exhausts, and binds in the significations that it receives from language. This process called rationalization it splits intellect from feeling and enslaves reason, can falsify judgement. This extermination of real feelings and replacement with the reverse contribute to passion killing. All we must remember is that rationalization is an unconscious defense mechanism, so every time we use this concept in our action, beliefs, relationships or when we are dealing with our emotion, we need to pay more attention.
Sometimes emotional aspects are acceptable if they are reasonable, if it is so, then we are talking about defensive attitudes and resistances.
According to the DSM-IV, rationalization occurs “when the individual deals with emotional conflict or internal or external stressors by concealing the true motivations for his or her own thoughts, actions, or feelings through the elaboration of reassuring or self-serving but incorrect explanations.”
It is evident to modern cognitive science and neuroscience, studying the role of emotion in mental function (including topics ranging from flashes of scientific insight to making future plans), that no human has ever satisfied this criterion, except perhaps a person with no affective feelings; such an idealized form of rationality is best exemplified by computers, and not people. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rationality
Rationality theorist, Jesús Mosterín makes a parallel distinction between theoretical and practical rational. According to him, reason and rationality are different: reason would be a psychological faculty, whereas rationality is an optimizing strategy. Humans are not rational by definition, but they can think and behave rationally or not, depending on whether they apply, explicitly or implicitly, the strategy of theoretical and practical rationality to the thoughts they accept and to the actions, they perform.
Theoretical rationality has a formal component that reduces to logical consistency and a material component that reduces to empirical support, relying on our inborn mechanisms of signal detection and interpretation. Mosterín distinguishes between involuntary and implicit belief, on the one hand, and voluntary and explicit acceptance, on the other. Theoretical rationality can more properly be said to regulate our acceptances than our beliefs.
Rationality is the strategy for living one’s best possible life, achieving your most important goals and your own preferences in as far as possible. Others think that any kind of rationality along the lines of rational choice theory is a useless concept for understanding human behavior. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rationality
As my main concern here is about passion, love, relationships and rationalization or rationality between them, let’s take a look on Plato’s theory of love: ”when one dispels these misunderstandings related to the popular notion of Platonic love, one finds a great richness and depth in Plato’s theory of love. In explaining why love is so important to us and yet why it fails us so often, Plato’s view of love seems applicable to our time. It is common knowledge that a very high rate of divorce threatens our marriages. We expect a lot from the sexual passion we call love, but usually end up disappointed when the romance goes away. However, we keep getting married, thinking that we are going to be the ones that will beat the system. If we fail, we change our partner and try again. We end up our love life as we began it, confused, afraid and as disappointed as we were hopeful. The malaise that characterizes our love lives naturally finds its way to the philosophical consulting room. In this paper, I shall attempt to show how Plato’s view of love can be helpful both in dispelling our confusion about love and in proposing some solutions to our suffering. http://www.iep.utm.edu/love/ Philosophy of Love: An Overview
When someone got’s disappointed in love, can the person say ”next time I will be rational”?
Being rational is not a solution, a solution is to identify the decision that we took long time ago, see Eic Berne at the beginning of this article. The decision we took implies us in the similarly situation, and we go for people who van takes there, being aware of your decision and changing them is a solution. Defending attitude and resistance will put us in the same situation over and over, is like a circle game, like a dance. If you don’t like the melody, then change it!
Claude Steiner said that ”science was a discipline that encourages detachment and rationality uncluttered by emotion”. Claude Steiner, in his book ”Emotional Literacy”, is talking about how to learn what you feel, how to express your feelings and how to improve every relationship in your life. http://www.claudesteiner.com/
To be emotionally literate is to be able to handle emotions in a way that improves your personal power and improves the quality of life for you and —equally importantly—the quality of life for the people around you. You can be emotional literate, if you want to control your feelings, in the same time before control, then you must be aware of your feelings, recognize them accept them and understand them.
Rationalizing process it makes us less responsible, we create another world around us, which is uncomfortable, unsecured, unpleasant.
What are we afraid of? Is being natural and letting go of feelings?
Quote by Will Smith: ”being realistic is the most commonly traveled road to mediocrity. Why would you be realistic? What is the point of being realistic?”