We are what we do and believe, or we do and believe what we are?

My current interest is about ‘Self esteem thru self image’.

Self image is a picture about how  we see us, how others see us and how we think others see us.

Thru self image we filtrate information called strokes, and self esteem receive will receive.

According to Humphrey’s (1998): “There are two central dimensions to self esteem: the feeling of being lovable and the feeling of being capable”.

Self esteem is a judgement, based on the extent to which we feel loveable and capable. This will be fed to some extent by the lived evidence of how much we are loved and able to do things. This can shift according to situation (Ginnis, 2002).

How can we create and maintain a good and healthy self image?

 I believe that a positive attitude it is not enough if the person do not believe is true, for example a person can try to have a good attitude about himself and do not believe it.

My question is if we are what we do and believe, or we do and believe what we are?

I prefer the second, because some people do not believe in what they do. ‘’I was wondering If I believe what I did’’, here I am talking about self identity………..

 

Life Positions according to Eric Berne are:

 

Linked with this concept of self esteem, TA describes a range of “life positions” that we might take it.  http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/I’m_OK,_You’re_OK

 

 

I’m okay

 

 

I’m okay

 

 

You’re not okay

 

You’re okay

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

That is all! Now you can reflect!

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4 thoughts on “We are what we do and believe, or we do and believe what we are?

  1. You have the right of it in graphing that when we DO and SAY out of what we ARE, we will always tell others they are OKAY even when they tell us we are NOT okay. Why? Because we are actually OKAY ourselves and can share freely.

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  2. ”We will always tell others they are OKAY even when they tell us we are NOT okay” YES, I totally agree, and when people make assumption about others in fact they are talking about themselves!

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