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Unconditional love for yourself! Questions

When people do not accept a precise behavior, feeling, perception, function, emotion, etc. at themselves, the tendency is to force themselves into a change, and not accepting the way they are. 
What that it is happening afterwards? Well, then the specific behavior is getting stronger, and the change is not happening.
However, whenever people start to accept themselves as they are and after that they come up with the change, things are getting better.

So, my questions are:

  • Are you often angry with you? Are you listening to yourself?
  • Do you accept everything that is you, what represent you?
  • Do you accept and acknowledge everything comes within your behavior?
  • Are you aware about your imperfections and weaknesses?
  • Are you accepting mistakes and choices you’ve made?
  • When you what to change something at you, do you accept what you want to change and later come with the changing? Or, do you denied that thing you don’t like about you, and force yourself to replace and integrate a new concept or notion?
  • Are you forcing yourself into an unpleasant situation or to adopt another behavior?
  • Are you blaming for your way of acting/reacting, or are you telling yourself ”that it is ok and you will do better next time”?
  • Do you blame yourself for everything that goes wrong?
  • When you think, you did something wrong, in what way do you talk with yourself?
  • Do you think you have unconditional love for yourself?

    “You can’t give love to someone else without knowing how to give yourself love first.” Tristan Loo

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Jealousy devastates most of the charming and delightful from!

This issue is a draft that I saved for a long time. I wrote the subject in my mind, I looked, I saw, I experienced and now I write.

 As humans, we start to experience jealousy since we were kids; we were jealous on our parents. When those children grew up, they began to be envious of their friends and later the jealousy concentrated most of the time on life partner. From my point of view, jealousy is an expressing emotion fear. Tru jealousy people think they show affection, and at a conscious level people believe they can control others, when actually, people try to control they on behavior.

 Yes, I am talking about a lot of confusion. Jealousy means also possession and proprietorial. People have this sense of ownership and

possessive. It gets worst when people try to protect what they assume a title holder for.

When people fall in love, they tell that they love the other person for what that person is. Well, in most of the cases, control makes his

appearance. Furthermore, I see jealousy like an alarm. In a love relationship, when one partner is jealous on the other partner, the person who expresses jealousy is the most vulnerable person in the relationship. For example, if we talk about cheating, a person who is expressing jealousy has a priority in cheating. Actuality, what I want to say is that this person is trying to protect herself for cheating.

Now let’s, take a view at what jealous means and conjugate.

Meanings: envious, desirous, resentful, grudging, green-eyed, suspicious, distrustful, mistrustful, doubting, insecure, anxious, possessive, proprietorial, protective, wary, watchful, solicitous, mindful.

Now, try to conjugate: I am (every word)…


Well, Jealousy is destructive, not constructive. You share beautiful things with your partner and not worries.

Jealousy devastates most of the charming and delightful, and keeps your locked somewhere afraid and insecure.
Here I have some quotes about this thing called jealousy.

“A lot of people get so hung up on what they can’t have that they don’t think for a second about whether they really want it.”
― Lionel Shriver, Checker and the Derailleurs

“The more you love,the more love you have to give.It’s the only feeling we have which is infinite…”
― Christina Westover, Precipice

“What sort of love is permeated by jealousy? You are jealous because you are unaware that everything you need is inside you.”
― Peter Deunov

“People want you to be happy. Don’t keep serving them your pain! If you could untie your wings and free your soul of jealousy, you and everyone around you would fly up like doves.”
― Rumi

“Jealousy is such an ugly emotion.”
― Cassandra Clare, City of Fallen Angels

“Jealousy is all the fun you think they had.”
― Erica Jong

“Jealousy’s a weak emotion.”
― Jay-Z

“The worst part of success is trying to find someone who is happy for you.”
― Bette Midler 

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My view about life, love, relationship!

For a good life as we call it, we need to take care of four aspects:  Life partner, friends, passions and work.  When we have this well integrated we feel  good about our life and with ourselves.

Most of the time one or two of this aspect are missing. Sometimes some have a life partner and a  work place (come on there is no time for friends and passions),  well my friend of course there is no time, nobody will give you,  except you.  People can make time for themselves and is not ok to say ‘’there is no time’’! Passions – this is a hard subject when you give yourself 100% to work, and work it is not you. You must be work. What I want to say is that you are
not what you do, you do what you are.
Most of the time people are what their work is, they forget that they have a private life, or they could have if they will give the proper attention. When you have friends and you don’t have a life partner, don’t forget not to forget them
when you will find a life partner. They are good when you are single, but they are good also after.  I am saying this because  I heard people saying  that they don’t have time for friends, anymore.  And when that person become
single again, separated, that breakup thing,  guess what she or he needs that friendship of their friends back.  There is no need  to take it back, if you take care of you with your friend always.

Now what is to write about when we understood how to take care of our life to feel complete.

When you think you found your life partner  you know that you  don’t have to change anything about that person, what you don’t know is probably how to realize that is the right person for you and vice versa.
When your relationship  it is about Loyalty; Common Values ​​and Interests; Good Verbal and Nonverbal Communications;  Love; Trust;  Fidelity ; Respect; Good Sex.

When one thing is missing another one is affected. You have to give and  receive  this things that makes a relationship a real relationship. Be clear about what you want, about what you deliver and about
who you are.  Love and relationships sometimes they could ask  to make a compromise, of
course, but sacrificing one above will not make a good compromise.

Spend the very good time in the same way  with you, with your partner life, friends .

♥ In this article I chose  the term  ”partner life- in the romantic way”,  even this person will be part of your life for a short or long period.